Regards a bad experience at IndieBleu:
My wife and I met five friend's (some of whom were from out of town) at IndieBleu for a cocktail (They had a rez for dinner) this past Saturday eve--we arrived there at about 7:15PM. The group: a couple in their seventies, a female couple in their forties and one young girl (Niece, granddaughter). All looked great, well dressed. Well, apparently everyone, but....me. I was in a pair of shorts. In my defense, I was wearing a nicely pressed button front shirt (Tucked in), Nantucket red shorts and white bucks-I was very presentable (if a little preppy) for Washington in the middle of August.
Anyway, the hostess immediately informed us that I would not be allowed in as their "policy" strictly forbid shorts--I casually said that that was fine as we were just going to have a quick cocktail at the bar and then allow the rest of the party to go on with dinner. The hostess still refused. I was starting to get a little miffed at this point. The hostess was very nice and clearly embarrassed as she stated "I'm just the messenger." Both the group and I were embarrassed and my wife and I left after an awkward goodbye.
Thinking back over thirty years of eating out, not only in my home base of DC for 30 years but all over the country (and other countries) and especially after having lived in New York for three years -I could not recall one single incident of being refused service in a restaurant due to my sartorial predilections (a hoity-toity club in NYC ,perhaps once). If I want to drink an over-priced 12 dollar specialty drink, doggoneit, I have the right to be comfortable.
I do understand and respect the fact that there are some restaurants where you just wouldn't go in and eat in shorts: La Cirque, The Four Seasons (NYC) Citronelle, Roberto Donna's joints, Inn at little Washington, 1789 (though I have had a drink at the bar in shorts) to name a few.
I don't think that I am being un-reasonable here.
I just don't get it. I realize that a restaurateur has the right to refuse service to anyone--And, perhaps, in that neighborhood he has people in shorts issues (which he should have been aware of when he signed a lease) but in my opinion, when you alienate your demographic you are doing your business MUCH more harm than good. Not only will I never go back--I will do my best to steer groups of people away that suggest going there. It must be nice for him that in the weakest sales month of the year for restaurants he can afford to turn a way business.
Further, this policy seems related to other service/attitude issues that are well-posted on several blogs/boards. As some other poster mentioned on another site: So much for a place that promised "no pretense, no attitude" when it opened. Yeah, so much!
Heck, I'll just have to spend more time at Cafe Milano and drink those 16 dollar glasses of wine-they don't mind if I'm wearing shorts and they'll even let me wear a baseball cap as well, if I feel like it.
Oh yeah, almost forgot. The party that we were with that actually got in said had a lovely (if somewhat expensive) meal. They were seated right next to a "hipster" with a ratty black t-shirt and "scruffy" jeans on--figure that.
Thanks for letting me rant!